SEND NUDES! – IMMORAL OR THE NEW NORMAL?

Have you ever send or received nude photos from someone whether solicited for or not? If not, would you send them if asked or rather would you be interested in viewing some?

Well, recent research from Mirror Uk done majorly on young people in active sex age reported that at least 63% have either shared or received their sexual partners’ nude pictures whereas 10% haven’t done so yet but wouldn’t mind doing it just to please their partners and the remaining either had doubts on whether or not they can do it or were sure to never try such.

A lady from Nairobi posted a question on one of the most popular Facebook groups in Kenya; Kilimani Mums and Dads. In the post she wrote;
“My boyfy wants me to send him nude photos, but I’m kind of nervous and don’t feel comfortable. I told him I didn’t want to, but he won’t drop it. He says I can trust him and that I will feel good about myself because I’m beautiful. Is it okay to send nude photos to someone if at all anapromise hawezi share na mtu? (If they promise never to share with anyone?)

Whether the lady genuinely needed answers to her question or was just a random joker, who doesn’t know Kenyans on social media when it comes to replies? They’re a total savage. The comments section was flooded with funny and ferocious replies and only a few seemed civilized.

To the ladies- It’s NOT OK for your boyfriend to pressure or push you into doing something you don’t want to do. It’s EXTRA, not OK for him to act as if this is a trust issue.

That’s manipulative — he’s making you feel like you are the problem when the problem is him not respecting your boundaries! And what’s more, he’s hiding the pressure with a compliment (telling you you’re beautiful), which probably makes it feel more confusing.

But let me be very clear — compliments are no longer nice when they are being used to pressure or confuse you, ESPECIALLY when you’ve already said you don’t want to.

Now, let’s talk about nudes for a minute. Taking and sending naked pics is a sexual activity, and just like with any sexual activity you want to first check-in with yourself.

If you’re not excited about doing this — forget it! And if you’re being pressured to do it — forget it, and maybe forget the jerk who’s pressuring you. If you do a little self-check-in and you are feeling totally into it, there are a few things to think about.

The truth is, there’s always some risk involved with sending a nude pic. Even though most boys would feel some excitement and happiness to see their girls’ nudes especially when they are in a distant relationship also, as a gesture of total trust but on the sad contrary, some would ask for them so to show and prove to their friends that they’ve ‘munched’ a hot lady. And to the extremely unfortunate end is when he decides to share it publicly after break up for revenge’s sake.

As said earlier sharing nudes is sexual activity and with any sexual activity, it’s good to have a conversation with your partner about these decisions (though you don’t ever have to justify your boundaries), so you can understand each other and decide on things that feel good for both of you.

You’ll know that you are not a compatible couple if you can’t have a common stand on such matters over and over again.

In the recent past, there have been numerous cases of leaked nudes and other pornographic content being published on social media mostly involving public figures most allegedly leaked by angry sexual partners in the name of shaming or blackmailing them after breaking up.

In one case, at a Kenyan University, a boy shared his girlfriend’s nudes on Facebook to shame her after the girl said it’s over and hopped onto a sponsor. Worst of all the girl committed suicide as she couldn’t handle her photos circulating online.

Some internet users have turned this into a money-making business, to collect such pornographic content and sell to vengeful people, who probably were dumped by their exes, seeking to collectively molest these ladies for having betrayed one of them.

You won’t miss finding some sharing Telegram links on Facebook to advertise their obscene business.

In 2018, President Uhuru Kenyatta signed a new controversial law; Computer Misuse and Cybercrimes Bill 2018, giving the government sweeping powers that could send Kenyans in contravention to up to 2 years in jail or cost them sh. 5 million.

The new law covers offenses relating to computer systems, including online insults, wrongful distribution of obscene images, child pornography, fraud, cyber terrorism, and espionage.

Sharing pornography through various electronic means will attract a maximum of Sh300,000 or 10 years in prison, or both if convicted.

While the new law will tackle a myriad of online evils, including child pornography, some young individuals do not yet know that sharing obscene content online is a criminal offense as they feel it’s not immoral but just a new normal.

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