Unhealthy relationships

Ever thought of all the people involved in your life and all the relationships you actually have with the many individuals you interact with daily, face to face or through the social media platforms. Probably a lot of people, but how many among the thousands you know actually help you evolve? A tiny percentage I want to believe. How many do you strive to keep up with daily negatively influencing you ?

You probably know that but one way or the other you tend to keep them around not sure if it’s actually worth it to drop them. Friendships have survived storms and silent episodes over the years but a tiny space exists that could actually ruin and dissolve those relationships. ”That Is how they are…” we tend to say but what about you? Are you okay with that? Are you comfortable? What’s holding you back from ending it?

Sanity, peace and freedom is probably one of the best dual gifts you’ll get to have and own as an individual. I feel one is allowed to end any unhealthy relationship because you get to choose who or not is in your circle.

Basically unhealthy relationships are any kind that changes you as a person in a bad way, becoming more of them and less of who you really are. Are they really worth your time? When you call it love but he or she manipulates you, hurts you, uses you for their benefits, makes you jealous, mentally you’re not even at peace. Do you still call that love?

Relationships that make you feel drained at the end of the day but you are being you, you feel you’re a nobody without them. Relationships that you hardly gain from, not knowledge, not money, not education not even a thing that you actually love. Striving to impress everyone at the cost of your own needs and wants. At the end of it all, it’s your loss.

Your habits are different, you actually lose some real ones, in your life and things take a turn on you as depression settles. Relationships that actually change you to a different person, routines, behaviors, character, language, virtues, morals and even perceptions.

At the end of it all, it’s your loss. Your habits are different, you actually lose some real ones, in your life and things take a turn on you as depression settles. Hey, I’m not saying everyone out here is bad. Some are actually the best people in life. It’s as simple as put yourself first.

Know exactly what you need and want .Live by your own rules and ways of life that nobody has to control you. Speak up when it’s not okay, darling you’re allowed to say “NO”. You might be the change they need instead. If you’re not comfortable you don’t have to do it but above all don’t make it a goal to impress anyone where it’s clearly not necessary.

Be with the right people and things will follow. Cut off anyone who doesn’t help you evolve rather yet diminishes your energy. You always deserve better after, only you know your worth. Don’t be afraid to speak up.

Vivian Khanyanji.